Instead of “Be quiet.” try “Can you use a softer voice?”

Instead of “What a mess!” try “It looks like you had fun. How can we clean up?”

Instead of “Do you need help?” try, “I’m here to help if you need me.”

Instead of “Let me do it.” try “I believe you can do it.”

Instead of “I explained how to do this yesterday.” try “Maybe I can show you another way.”

Instead of “Stop crying.” try “It’s okay to cry.”

Instead of “Look at what you’ve done.” try “How can we fix this?”

Instead of “Do I need to separate you?” try “Could you use a break?”

Instead of “Do you have any questions?” try “What questions do you have?”

Instead of “You’re OK.” try “How are you feeling?”

Instead of “It’s not that hard.” try “You can do hard things.”

Instead of “You need to listen.” try “I want to help you.”

Instead of “We don’t talk like that.” try “Please use kind words.”

Instead of “Calm down.” try “Breathe. I’m here to help.”

Reference: https://www.weareteachers.com/positive-language-in-the-classroom/?fbclid=IwAR0Z6sl18gEfA2BdG3ebva5LXJXtK1-qTRXtyCjaDjg5tv9qzkuw13z3UAc