As I am going to resign from my organization, I started pat attention to the issue of farewell. I was considering if I should inform my students about my leaving or not. However, I recently read a book which states “Kids need closure when relationships end.”  This made me think a while because in my previous school, we, host country faculty, did not get used to telling students about leaving, but overseas teachers did. I discussed this with my professor and my colleague, and I felt that it is my responsibility to have the official farewell with my kids even though the time we get together is only two months. I really enjoy getting together with them. As my last class is on Thursday, October 28, which is really close to Halloween. I am thinking about playing “trick or treat” can give them Halloween cookies or getting some stationery for them. I would like to take a group picture with them as my memory for sure, but I am still thinking about what to do and what to get. I hope my kids get enough emotional support on the fact that I am leaving.

When students feel safe and supported in school, they can learn better. Here’s how to start making those connections.

Building strong relationships with students is a vital part of the work educators do in schools, yet not every teacher enters the classroom having learned the nuts and bolts of how to develop and nurture teacher-student relationships, writes Gianna Cacciatore in Usable Knowledge.

But relationship-building is a skill we can all get better at, says Megan Marcus, a counselor and the founder of FuelEd, a nonprofit dedicated to teaching educators social and emotional skills. “Just one relationship with a caregiver throughout a lifespan can actually change the brain’s development, heal trauma, and promote learning,” Marcus tells Cacciatore. “Educators have the potential to utilize this power. Many do this organically—but we could do so much more if educators were equipped with the skills and self-awareness to systematically do this work.”

When teachers consistently prioritize building strong connections with students, research shows there’s a significant impact on kids’ long-term wellbeing as well as their ability to learn and stay engaged in schools. “Learning doesn’t happen without relationships,” writes Rebecca Alber, an instructor at UCLA’s Graduate School of Education. “In the classroom, rules matter, but as many of us have learned after a few years teaching, relationships matter much more.”

Here are four ways to start building and nurturing authentic, strong relationships with students.

DEVELOP YOUR “EMPATHIC LISTENING” SKILLS

A natural response when a student is distressed is to immediately offer advice or reassurance, but that’s not always the most helpful or productive reaction. Instead, try slowing down and patiently “listening to what a student has to say and not responding. No reassuring, no offering advice. Just listening,” says Cacciatore. This can be hard to do, especially if you’re a problem-solver by nature, so take a breath and remind yourself that good listening isn’t necessarily about fixing anything or anyone. Ultimately, empathic listening builds trust: “Someone comes to you, they share their feelings, and instead of jumping in to problem-solve, you listen,” notes Marcus. “Now, not only is this person calmer and better able to solve their own problems, but they want to come back to you again, share more.”

Empathic listening also requires waiting until the person who’s speaking finishes and allowing ample space for pauses, writes neurologist and teacher Judy Willis. “Such pauses, which demonstrate your focus, may give the speaker the reassurance to reveal something they were reluctant to share,” says Willis. Remember to sustain eye contact and an engaged posture to signal that you’re actively listening rather than bored or distracted, she adds.

CARVE OUT TIME FOR SMALL TALK

Small talk isn’t insignificant. Each Monday morning, middle school math teacher Cicely Woodard and her students form a check-in circle, pass a ball around, and take turns sharing how they’re feeling, offering compliments to classmates, or discussing what they did over the weekend. “Though it can seem like every minute is needed to get through the academic content, I’ve learned that a five-minute investment once a week to learn about each other is invaluable to my students and builds a better culture in my classroom,” writes Woodard.

But Woodard also connects with her students throughout the school day, finding a few moments prior to class to chat, for instance, or greeting students at the classroom door. “Because I’ve made myself approachable, some of my students will tell me stories about their lives during the five minutes between classes,” she writes. “I stop what I am doing, look them in the eyes, and listen. I love seeing their eyes light up as they tell me these stories, and these encounters always leave me a little more knowledgeable about who they are as people.”

BE GENUINE, IT’S OK TO SHOW VULNERABILITY

Educators often feel pressured to maintain authority in the classroom and avoid expressing emotions or sharing personal details with students. But this can inadvertently put up a wall between teachers and students, ultimately hindering efforts to develop strong connections. The reality is that everyone experiences worries, anxiety, or frustration at times, and when teachers find opportunities to share their own feelings with students—in developmentally appropriate ways, of course—it helps normalize students’ own emotions and struggles.

“It starts with so much honesty and transparency with kids,” says Lindsey Minder, a second grade teacher. “It’s really easy to strive to be this idealized, always ready to go, elementary school teacher. And that’s not real, and that’s not human. My students connect most with me when they see that I also struggle, and I also have challenges.”

Showing vulnerability can be as simple as acknowledging imperfections or sharing a few personal tidbits, says instructional coach and educator Beth Pandolpho. Her students know, for example, that she “cried a lot in elementary school,” and that her big goal in middle school was to not cry at school, she writes. “There’s a chance for teachers to bridge the divide between the adults who seem to have all the answers and the students who are still figuring things out,” Pandolpho says. “When my students feel like they know me, they’re more actively engaged, seek my help outside of class, and are more receptive to my suggestions and ideas.”

TRACK YOUR EFFORTS

The many competing demands on educators’ time and attention can make the work of nurturing relationships feel overwhelming. That’s something educator Todd Finley decided to tackle. “Wouldn’t more students benefit if the [process] were less haphazard and unconscious?” writes Finley, a professor of English education at East Carolina University. “I decided to experiment with being deliberate and intensive in thinking about my students.”

Aiming to make his relationship-building efforts more systematic and intentional, Finley developed a 5×5 assessment time strategy. Each morning, he sets aside a short block of time—like when he’s driving to the gym—to think deeply about five students for about five minutes per child. During these minutes, he reflects on a set of guiding questions: what he noticed about the student recently, for example, and what this reveals about their struggles, values, and goals. Throughout the school day, he’ll use these reflections to start conversations with the focus students. “This can happen in the hall, or in class while I’m passing out papers—whenever it seems natural to do it,” he writes.

Plan for a bit of a learning curve with this strategy, Finley warns: “Don’t expect it to go perfectly at first. As with mindfulness, you’ll get better with consistent practice,” he writes. But the simple habit of consistent, systematic reflection “will build your capacity to notice, understand, and connect with students—competencies exhibited by transformational teachers that fortunately improve with practice.”

Reference: https://www.edutopia.org/article/how-building-deeper-relationships-students?fbclid=IwAR0zOGYB5tAcjsrPfiMBliYG5YBeXUN8MW-649ukrj7Fn2Mu57MS11aiUsw

I handed out my resignation letter yesterday. The main reasons that I take action is that first, the social worker always shout loudly/yell at at students who made mistakes including writing words untidy, forgetting to get signatures from parents and homeroom teachers, and some tiny little mistakes. What I saw in my class is totally different  than what I have learned. I always wondered that we teach kids to respect teachers and peers, but did the social worker respect the kids? The reasons that I chose to leave is that I no longer need to tolerate this unequal power of the adult-children relationships and I cannot change the rigid culture of A-apple,B-banana, C-coconut only. Learning is supposed to be flexible and multiple. There are possibilities that A-ant, B-ball, C-cat, etc. The kids are poor because they have no choice of their learning; it is rote memorization purely. The progress is that they can memorize the pronunciation and the words, but they cannot apply the knowledge the have learned.

As a teacher, I firmly believe that this need to stop because even I ,myself, learned English 20 yers ago, I owned the learning agency of my fun English class. We cannot return to the improper teaching methodology again otherwise all the efforts in our educational reform are in vain.

I am more aware of bias, unequal power, and injustice recently. This is a post I extracted from an article. I strongly believe that Teachers are the authority without authoritarian power. Therefore, as a culturally responsive teacher, I want my kids to feel SAFE in my classroom and know that they own the learning agency in their hands.

I truly believe that sometimes the BEST teachers are the ones who look the worst on paper.

Once I let go of “perfect”, I found something better. I found more TIME for the things that mattered, like really LISTENING to my students and meeting their needs. Once I stopped stressing over lesson plans and bulletin boards, I found a newfound love of teaching. I no longer “looked” like the perfect teacher, but I became a BETTER one.

I refuse to be remembered as the teacher who had it all together. That’s not the title I’d wear with honor. Rather, I want my students to remember how they felt safe in my classroom; I want them to remember that they felt like they could ask questions in my presence. I want, more than anything, for my students to remember MY class as a gentle and creative learning environment. Forget perfect.

Reference: https://www.boredteachers.com/post/the-teacher-who-had-it-all-together?fbclid=IwAR2rU1hWdLji42QAGEz40hsApZvqIpG9URkKs-8YtblMwBA0-dzNH5kDK7A